One summery Saturday morning, I pulled a beautiful shawl from a cardboard box across the street. The box was part of a massive free pile—table after table laden with treasures from my friend Mandy’s life. Mandy loved nature, children, and beauty, so there were animals in all shapes, sizes, and textures, from books to bubble blowers. Children’s toys, delicate napkins, and the prettiest of notecards. I chose the shawl to remember Mandy, who died when she could not handle any more pain and took matters into her own hands.
I knew about Mandy’s lifelong struggles, and I was aware that both children and nature were safe refuges for her, but I didn’t realize how much beauty mattered to Mandy until her memorial service. For her, beauty was healing, a balm to her battered soul. Whether it was the spectacular patterns of frost on a winter window, or a carefully color-coordinated outfit, Mandy sought out everyday beauty like a sunflower leans toward the sun.